My husband lost his job twice in the last year. Yesterday, I hap- pened to check the Internet history and was horrified to see that my husband was on inappropriate sites every day. I asked him about it today, and he is totally denying it. I said I need an explanation, and he says he has no clue. All he is saying is that he is finding it very weird, but he promises it wasn’t him. There is no one else that has access to our computer. I think our shalom bayis is not great as is, but this definitely tops it off.

I am very unsure of where to go from here. By now, I’m feeling very insecure and also I’m starting to wonder also if this is somehow related to the reason he lost his job. Any advice? Thank you.

Desperately waiting for an answer…

Rabbi Twerski Responds

Unfortunately, many people become addicted to inappro- priate material. And as with all addictions, the addict himself is often in denial. Many have been helped by the support at, but understandably only if they really want help. As the saying goes, “You can bring a horse to the water, but you can’t force him to drink.”

There are also some therapists who can help. Depending on where you live, I may be able to suggest someone. GuardYourEyes also has a division for the wives of addicts, providing them with advice and support and helping save marriages. I suggest reach- ing out to them.