Step 5: “Admitted to G-d, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”
The Torah says that if a person develops a skin lesion which may be tzoraas, he must show it to the kohain.
The Rebbe of Stolin said, “How different the chassidim of today are from those of the previous generation. Today’s chassidim try to show the Rebbe how pious and observant they are. When I used to go to my Rebbe, I would show him all my defects, in the hope that he could help me divest myself of them.”
When we take a garment to be cleaned, we may call the attention of the cleaner to those stains that we think are most resistant, alerting him to be particularly certain that they are removed. How foolish it would be to conceal these stains from the cleaner’s eyes!
We should not deceive ourselves that we have reached perfection. Since we do have imperfections, who if not our spiritual leader can help us improve upon them? But in order for them to do so, we must allow them to see what they are.